Never Too Late For College

Yes, you're an adult, but even gorwn-ups are allowed to have some fun every once in a while. It's so easy to get caught up in the routine of studying, going to work, taking care of your family and household obligations, and to burn out mid-semester. Take stock of your life and your approach to college. Are you having any fun or doing anything for yourself? If not, I recommend you start now!

Attend Campus Events

Check out your school's Office of Student Life. Some schools offer fabulous activities, events, and performances at a fraction of the cost. You may be able to take your tween daughter or son to a great concert of a well-known pop artist right there on your campus. Or perhaps you'll take in a musical at your school's auditorium. There are also many lectures offered in subjects that may be of interest to you, and sometimes professors will offer extra credit for attending.

Get Involved

Studies show that students who get involved in campus activities or clubs are more likely to remain in college and to graduate. The majority of such studies apply to traditional aged students, but getting involved on campus can be good for adult learners as well. Being a commuter student can make one feel very isolated from what's going on at college. Getting involved in campus activities can help you to feel more a part of your campus and often helps to increase confidence. Check out how you can become part of student government, clubs related to your major, or campus sports and activities that interest you. I've seen adult students benefit greatly from being active in non-traditional student groups and academic honor societies as well. You'll gain leadership skills and make great contacts and support systems that can benefit you now and in future pursuits.

Take Some "You" Time

Don't neglect yourself. We all need some alone time. Time is such a precious commodity as an adult college student, I know. But, believe me, you'll feel more refreshed to tackle everything that's on your plate if you recharge by taking some down time. Read a book or go to a movie. Take up a hobby or activity you once enjoyed, but have found yourself neglecting. I find that I'm tremendously recharged after just taking an hour or two to do some scrapbooking - a hobby I all too often put to the side.

So what are you going to do for fun? Put yourself to the test this weekend, and choose just one activity you can engage in, either alone or with family or friends. You'll be so glad you did.

Having a support system is crucial when you go back to school. Family and friends play such an important role in your life; it just makes sense that their support, or lack of, can have a tremendous impact on your college success. The following tips may help you as you ease the transition for your loved ones as well as yourself.

Building a Support System

Take a minute to write down everyone you think can help you as you incorporate college into your life. Asking for help is tough for some of us, but the people around you are likely more than willing to lend a hand. You'll need assistance with things like chidcare, household duties, and stress management, as attending class and studying begins to take up more of your time. Don't forget to add support staff from your colege or university, such as academic advisers. These folks can be extremely valuable in providing answers to your questions and providing peaceof mind.

Communication is Key

Open communication with those in your life is the key to making it all work. Talk to you family members before you enroll in college so that they're aware of the reasons you have for wanting to go. Once you're enrolled, be sure to let them know of the changes they can expect, such as the fact that you won't be as avaiable to them as you once were. Reassure them, however, that you will be there when they need you and encourage them to communicate their needs as well. As you go along your college journey, things will come up that will need to be addressed,and changes will need to be made. Just remember to keep the lines of communication open as you go along!

Set Boundries

Setting boundaries with your loved ones and with yourself will help to keep you on the right track. Your famiy may expect you to be as active in the household chores as you once were. Remind them again of the benefits of pursuing your education and that they agreed to be supportive of your efforts. Then delegate some of the household duties to older kids, your spouse, or partner. Before long, everyone will slide into a routine that works for your family. Setting boundaries with yourself is another story.

So often we want to take on more than we can handle. It will be even more important while you're in school to say no to certain requests and to be creative about ways of completing others. For example, when I was going back to school, I often purchased baked goods for my kids' school parties or for summer gatherings, rather than making them from scratch. Though I enjoy baking, it took a lot of pressure off of me to be able to use that time fr studying and just pick something up from the store the next time I was out. Finally, you may be surprised to ind there are some friends who aren't as supportive as you hoped they'd be. Sometimes friends feel threatened by the fact that you're pursuing your education. They may even be jealous. Or they may simply be afraid they're losing you. Take time to reassure them, but don't let them bring you down or steer you away from your dreams.

Altough adding college to your life will be an adjustment, things will eventually settle down. If you've been a student for a while now, what has worked for you? What would you suggest to help new students in forming a support network?